Self Compassion X Mental Health Monday

A recent question I had in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy was how do we become more self compassionate when the inner critic shows up. And the answer isn't as complex as you would think. 

Firstly I've decided to name the inner critic as this separates it from yourself, remember we all have negative thoughts about ourselves from time to time but when these thoughts become a problem it can affect your daily life by means of your confidence will plummet and you can even start to believe the inner critics opinions which is dangerous for your mental health. 

In order to be more compassionate towards yourself when the inner critic shows up you have to simply witness the thought don't become at one with the thought; challenge the thoughts by thinking of a rational/more positive counteract argument to what the inner critic is saying, yes but i'm doing okay not marvellous but okay kind of statements help to train you into the habit until it becomes a natural response to challenge the thoughts.

Self compassion can take a while to master but think of it like would I speak to a friend like the way i'm speaking to myself or would I be more compassionate to their struggles and mistakes? Try be kind and understanding to the inner critic, on a subconscious level they're trying to protect you by being your own harshest judge holding you to a higher standard, which in turn says you're valuable and not worthless; because yes while there are improvements to be made for us all, the inner critic see's your potential which can be hard to see when it gets so dark.  

Till next time,

Stevie x